Slow Cooked: The Recipe for Real Love!

You can’t walk into a store this week without being reminded that tomorrow is Valentine’s Day. At every turn there are heart shaped-boxes, lingerie, balloons and more. Sure gifts are nice (I for one love them) but when we place all of the focus on the materialism of the day we forget the most important part–celebrating love. Sometimes we all need a reminder to slow down and truly connect, so I’m re-posting one of my favorite love blogs below.
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In the wake of countless celebrity pop-up and well-choreographed relationships, it’s hard to remember what Carrie Bradshaw referred to as “all consuming, can’t live without you type of love” looks like. But what I know for sure–it definitely lasts for more than 72 hours.

We’ve become an over-consumed, highly disposable, microwaveable society. We’ve replaced the art of courtship to speed dating. It seems that in a time when we’ve literally doubled the leisure time of our predecessors, we’re too busy to sit down for one proper date, so we settle for 15 bogus ones… in under 30 minutes or your money back– how sad.

Call me old fashioned, but if you’re too busy for a date, what makes you think you can handle the time commitment of a relationship?

Recently, through a series of unfortunate medical events my grandfather has landed in the hospital. At the ripe old age of 88 he shows more grit and tenacity than most men a quarter of his age. As he works to heal, my grandmother and his wife of 53 years and partner for over 60 years sits by his side. They give each other encouragement and support at the top of their lungs each visit. Just recently my grandfather with his “good arm” took his shaky hand and placed it on his wife’s tiny face squeezing her cheeks and said to her “I will love you until I’m dead”. My eyes welled up with tears. In that moment I witnessed something pure, beautiful, and in these days rare, true love—a love that has endured over six decades around the sun.

Relationships take work and time and if you’re lucky to be committed to the right person your love can age like a fine Cabernet or as Method Man famously rhymed to Mary J “I’m your Mister, you my Mrs. with hugs and kisses Valentine cards and birthday wishes? Please, we on another level of planning, of understanding”. Case and point, you can’t grow with someone you don’t take time to really know. True love isn’t packaged neatly like a Lean Cuisine nor does it need a whole lot of additives to make it digestible.

Now, I don’t know about you, but I prefer my love the way I like my meals…slow cooked, organic, and delicious.

Best advice for finding the love you need and deserve? Put up a sign that reads: Microwave-minded people need not apply.

Musical enlightenment after the jump!

You’ll never know what kind of love waits for you if you don’t take it slow…