Thanksgiving brings up a range of emotions, most notably thankfulness and hopefully a moment of pause to celebrate what’s truly important in life. Then on the following day we turn around and trample over our neighbors that we just finished giving gratitude for in order to pick up the hottest gadget that loses its allure once it leaves the shelf. Ah, traditions.
So, this year I want to focus on what seems to be becoming a disturbing norm in our culture and it’s not thankfulness it’s the evolution of the side chick. Sure, you’re thinking really Danielle, right before Turkey day you’re going to dive into this?!?! Why, yes, yes I am.
I have watched, read, and listened to countless songs, reality TV shows, and blogs that “teach” people how to be a “good side chick”— not how to be a good wife, mother, or friend, which reminds me of the variety of side dishes that will grace our tables tomorrow. The side dishes, know their place. They are on the table to compliment the turkey not show it up.
So, in the spirit of my favorite eating holiday here are 5 side dishes the side chick can learn a thing or two from:
- Macaroni and Cheese: Sure it’s creamy and delicious but no one wants to eat it all day every day. Plus no one can afford to—a moment on the lips forever on the hips. The same bodes true for the girl/guy on the side. Sure, it may seem good at first, but eventually you will drop further and further down the list of “wants” and you will never become a need.
- Cornbread: Fluffy and delightful, but unless you put a protein with it you only really want one piece. Chili and cornbread, Turkey and cornbread, and the list goes on—cornbread on its own, I could take it or leave it and the same is true for the someone on the side. You deserve more than to be pushed off to the side of the plate or forgotten about when something more filling comes along.
- Candied Yams: They are sweet and syrupy and covered with a whole lot of mess—but let’s be real they are never the “go to side” on the table. They’re for presentation only. Don’t allow yourself to be someone’s arm candy. You may “floss” on their arm for a moment but you will never be in their heart for the long term.
- Mashed Potatoes: The queen of starches—but not the queen of hearts. Going down it’s velvety and smooth but after a while it’s weighs you down and you need a nap. At first the side chick gets all the praise for being “different” and “light”, but then the weight of the lying and sneaking around just becomes too cumbersome and back in the cupboard you go.
- Stuffing: Let’s face it we only enjoy this starchy goodness once a year. You deserve to be loved 365 days of the year.
You are too good to be on the side of anyone’s plate or anyone’s life. This year and every year strive to have your love on top—not on the side. Now, that is something to be thankful for!
Musical Lessons on Love from Queen Bey